We know that friends and connections with people are such an important part of our lives. But for some, going out and making friends is much more difficult than it sounds. If you are scared or nervous about trying to make friends, here are some important things to keep in mind when trying to connect with other people.
- You are worthy of love and friendship
There is nothing wrong with you that exempts you from needing and deserving connections with others. Everyone needs people they can trust who accept them for who they are. You will be that person for someone else, so be sure to let others do the same for you.
- Others want to make connections as well.
Some people are just as nervous as you are to open up and make friends, but everyone wants it. Before you start thinking, “I bet they won’t want to be friends with me,” remember that everyone wants to find true friends and others may be having just as hard of a time as you are making those connections. Take the leap, you may leave with a lifelong pal!
- Some people are douches, that’s not on you.
There are people in the world who are just not nice. You will more than likely meet one or two of them in your lifetime. The problem comes when we internalize that as something being wrong with us. If someone is rude or mean to you, let them be! You don’t need a friend like that anyway.
- There are approx. 7.4 billion people in the world.
So if you try to make a friend and it doesn’t work out, don’t worry! You will never run out of people to try to make friends with. Sometimes you have to meet quite a few people to find those who really stick with you. Again, this is not necessarily a reflection of you. They are out there, don’t stop searching!
- It may be scary, but it is worth it.
The benefits of close friendship far outweigh the fear and risk it takes to reach out to someone. Remember, you are worth it, and others want friendships too. Don’t let your fear or insecurities talk you out of your besties!