Have you ever wondered, “Why am I always so stressed?”
I think that we all have at some point or another in our lives. Sometimes we can be stressed with work, or school, or family.
Whatever the situation is, there seems to always be one common thing involved that is the source of the stress: toxic people. Toxic people have a way to seep into our lives and poison us from the inside out.
Whether it is their bad attitude, their selfish behavior, or their “always one-up” mentality, they always find a way to add stress to our lives. This is totally unnecessary and is something that we have the ability to control.
You may be saying, “Well, how do I get rid of this toxic person without feeling bad about it afterwards?” By following these 3 steps, you will be on your way to a toxic-free zone in no time.
Shut the behavior down early
Sometimes, I think we let behavior go on far too long in an effort to not hurt someone’s feelings, salvage a relationship (that is actually just beginning), or for some other self-perceived reason.
Either way, it’s not good for ourselves or the other person involved. A good relationship is built on honesty.
If someone is doing something you don’t like, or asks that you do something that you disagree with, say it to them straight! Express your true feelings and let them know that is not cool with you from the get-go. It can actually save a lot of hard feelings and misunderstandings down the road. Plus, they’re more likely to respect you for actually saying how you feel instead of being a people-pleaser.
Make a Pros and Cons List
This may seem like a trivial thing to do but it can often help you see whether or not that person is beneficial to keep in your life or not.
For instance, if someone you are around is toxic to you but you only interact with them for a limited amount of time on limited occasions, it may be worth enduring a few hours of pain here or there versus breaking it off entirely. Maybe this is a work/business/school relationship that is vital to your success.
Making a list of pros and cons will help you visually see what their usefulness is. If you are mutually benefitting as much as they are from the relationship, it may be a good idea to keep them around.
If all else fails, just dump them
Sometimes people are stubborn. You may tell them repeatedly that “this isn’t working” or “stop acting that way” and they still don’t listen! This will only continue to frustrate you and the 5 other people around you that you vent to constantly about your dissatisfaction.
Remember your worth! You will find someone new to replace the person you dumped who respects you and treats you the way you deserve to be treated.
In the end, it’s all about creating balance. Be mindful of those you keep in your company, and look out for those toxic people in your life you can eliminate from your friends list in order to live a long, happy, healthy life!
Need other ways to handle toxic people? Check out this great article by Dr. Travis Bradbury!