Are You Bullying Without Even Realizing It?

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This is the stereotypical persona of a bully in the movies. In real life, they don’t always look like this. Source

You may think of bullying as an instance during your childhood when you or someone you know was being slammed into a locker at school or having their lunch money taken on a consistent basis.

The truth of the matter is that we probably all experienced bullying in some form or fashion during our lives. Bullying can take on many forms and doesn’t always have to involve the biggest or meanest person in the school. It is a nasty habit that we don’t want to find ourselves falling into on a regular basis.

To help shed light on the different forms that bullying can take on, I have listed a few examples below:

Belittling– This is very common across all age groups. Have you ever been in a situation where you put someone down or mocked them for doing something that you didn’t agree with? This is an example of bullying where, maybe your intentions were to take care of yourself, but you weren’t able to accomplish this in a respectful way.

Bossing: Often we don’t try to exhibit this behavior, but it comes out anyway. Maybe we like to be a leader and be in charge. This is not a bad thing, as long as we can remember that other people have good ideas and want to be heard as well. Effective leaders are able to listen to the ideas and suggestions from their counterparts to formulate an effective plan.

Excluding: This form of bullying can be extremely hurtful to others. By leaving others out of group activities, making too many “inside” jokes, and not allowing others to participate are examples of bullying by exclusion. You may have experienced this form of bullying within your circle of friends or even in the workplace.

As you can see, bullying can take on many forms and affect people in multiple ways. Bullying is serious and should not be taken lightly. Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale University.

Instead of resorting to this type of behavior be vigilant to communicate in a straightforward manner. By acknowledging your feelings in a situation and being respectful of the feelings of others involved, your relationships will be much more happy and healthy.

 

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